Ok, this is going to be another long rambly post I suspect. More than anything I’m trying to work this out in my own head but any insight from any of you wise ladies would be gratefully received.
Ds’s nursery have sent out a satisfaction survey and there are one or two things I’m not happy with. I’m fighting myself because its being anonymously done but realistically I’m one of ‘those’ women 
and their going to know I’m the only one who’d raise these points (I doubt the girl who swears at her little girl if she cries when left would be particularly concerned 
) and ultimately I’m leaving my lovely little Bean in their care, I don’t want to upset them too much.
What I want to comment on mostly is the way they deal with it when children are upset. The teacher to her credit usually does offer a cuddle but every time I have heard her tell the child to ‘Stop crying’ or something along those lines. The worst case was on Bean’s first day and another child was told’ Stop crying please, we have a new child today and I need to concentrate on him. Stop crying , your only making yourself feel worse and you’ll upset the new boy’ etc .
Now this isn’t something I’d do in my own home and I’d be very upset to think this could happen to Bean but am I being unrealistic to think that they could respond in a gentler way in such a big group? Also I think that its going against Montessori philosophy which is supposedly based around trust of the child to be telling him that his (perfectly valid from my point of view) emotion is wrong or at least that it must be suppressed. How can he trust himself if he thinks his emotions are wrong?
I’m hoping some of you understand where I’m coming from but I’m no writer (as you all know 
) and I’m not sure how to communicate this to someone who , obviously, isn’t like-minded.
Feeling much clearer just from writing that down but do please chuck in your own thoughts. x
to do anything else wouldn’t be true to yourself or your children.
