I was hoping to be sharing some exciting news with you all in a week or so.
So happy that DH and I had conceived so quickly.

But sadly at 10 weeks and 6 days I started to bleed and a scan earlier today showed no sign of a baby, just a heartbreakingly empty sac.
We have been told that there were probably developmental problems very early on, my body just didnt want to let go, so I continued to have all the signs of pregnancy.
As you can imagine, we are devastated.
We are trying to focus on the positives..
That there was obviously something very wrong and my body was just doing the natural thing.
That despite me being 42, we conceived easily, both with our beloved son and this time too, within a couple of months.
That my body wanted to be pregnant and held on for many weeks.

But ive got a tough time ahead, physically, as, through choice, im currently going through a natural miscarriage and emotionally at our sad loss.

I just feel that by writing this down and if any of you would be kind enough to share your thoughts or experiences, it may just give me the strength to get through this and try again, as we dearly want to.

Thank you for listening.

Helen xxx

I’m so sorry for your loss Helen.  I’m afraid that I can’t offer any advice other than to give yourself and your DH time to grieve, let your body take as long as it needs to heel.

Sending you all big hugs as this difficult time.

Michelle

So sorry to hear that. I don’t have anything useful to say but I didn’t want to read and run. Take care of yourself x

So sorry, be kind to yourself and your body x

So sorry to hear this, Helen.  I had a similar experience with my second pregnancy and it was a very difficult time for a while afterwards - I felt bereaved.  I decided to let nature take its course too and still definitely feel this was best for me. 
Do give yourself time to grieve - it’s very early days yet.  Please do pm me if you’d like to talk / write / know more.  I will light a candle for you and your little soul.  Hugs, Roof, x

So sorry Helen X

What a sad thing to happen, i’m so sorry . Give yourself time to grieve. Thinking of you and your little one.

Sending you lots of love and healing energy. 

Charlotte xxxx

So sorry Hun, No advice to share I’m afraid but I have lost a baby and know how heartbreaking it is. My thoughts are with you.

xx

We love all three of you and are thinking of you.

sarie, Colin, Alice x

so sorry to hear such sad news xxx

So sorry to hear that.  Take care of yourselves and give yourself time. xxx

So sorry to hear your news. I’ve had 3 miscarriages now (I’m prone to them due to PCOS) and one of mine proceeded ‘naturally’ which I found slightly easier to come to terms with than the other times when my health was endangered and I ended up in hospital.

I’ve found that some people need some time before trying to conceive again and some people want to try again as soon as possible. I would say to do whatever seems right to you, no matter what others may advise.

I also found it helpful to have a small ‘ceremony’ for the baby, to decide if it had been a boy or a girl and then to name it. I then had a tattoo symbolising that name, kind of to echo the labour pain I never got to feel with that soul. Maybe you might also feel a kind of closure with some kind of ‘marker’.

Be kind to yourself.

big (((hugs)))i know how you’re feeling ,i lost a little one after my 3rd child,i still think of ‘him’even though it was way to early to tell the sex,we went on to have 4 more,though to me i’ll always be mama to 8,rest up,and give yourself time xx

(((hugs)))  How heartbreaking. The time will soon be right to welcome a new soul to the world, I’m just so sorry it is not as soon as you were hoping.  Take care, listen to your body, and we are all here for you should you need us.

xx

Thinking of you xxx sorry no words of advice or experience to share, but just to say im thinking of you.

XX Thinking of you and sending healing thoughts
Lou xx