I know I am probably better completely over sensitive but I am feeling a lil bit hurt by some comments made by my neighbours about me. I live in a block of flats and was out in the communal garden putting washing out when a new neighbour approach me and just said your a hippy aren’t you??? When I asked why she thought that she said cos of the things I do. Now it made me laugh at the time but I wouldn’t dream of walking up to her and saying oh you’re a ........... (feel free to fill in the blank with whatever you like). Then today another neighbour asked me what I was up to today and I replied I had been making bath bombs for a gift, making a birthday bunting for another friend and preparing bits for the nature club I run on a friday afternoon. His reply was I should get a life and get out more !!!???!!! then he said you know that dizzee rascal song Bonkers (and unfortunately I do know it) well thats me and that something wasn’t quite right (at which point he started pointing to his head) and that all I needed now was a funny hat. Ok I can slightly see the funny side but why should they be allowed to make such judgements about my character and my life? I do feel quite hurt by their stupid and ignorant comments although I know I shouldn’t.
I have just finished my degree so I am taking some much needed time to induldge myself in doing these lovely things and I am just getting laughed at.
I am very sorry for moaning on, I just needed to get it out
Thanks for listening and again sorry for being such an over sensitive moaner
Blimey, that was incredibly rude of your neighbours. No I wouldn’t dream of going up to someone and saying"Oh you’re, such and such,“ and making comments about being bonkers etc - to a close friend as a bit of gibing perhaps but not to a neighbour.
I wonder what their idea of a life is - going out at weekends and getting drunk and making fools of themselves????? Watching crappy soaps, spending a fortune on shopping trips buying stuff they don’t really need etc; how about being sat in front of a playstation or xbox for hours on end playing violent video games or online on such “games” as second life and the like.
You could try talking to them and telling them you found hteir comments hurtful - but I suspect folks with their attitude would think it of further evidence of your “strange” lifestyle. I don’t know really, ignore them I guess they are only showing their ignorance.
I think that would upset me too. But also on the other hand I have a tendency to say what I think, open my mouth before engaging my brain so have been known to put my foot in it or hurt someone’s feelings. If they didn’t intentionally set out to hurt your feelings then I am sure they would be sad to know they have, so I think if you feel brave enough you should say to them that it upset you. They might also just be the kind of people to tease (like my in laws) and think that is ok and funny and assume you can take it. I hate laughing at other peoples expense but they just seem to relate in that way to each other. I guess it takes all sorts ....
Oh - big hugs to you BB - I would be hurt if neighbours said these things to me. Mind you - I don’t know what they say behind my back… Just live your lovely life in the waye you feel s right for you - they are probably jealous inside that they can’t be true to themselves and it comes out by being rude and ignorant. xxxx
I would also be terribly upset by such comments and don’t understand why people would make such comments, especially the bonkers one, what on earth was meant by that! I would definitely explain that those sort of comments are unkind and explain to them that saying such things was very likely to cause upset and that some people may not be as understanding as you are!
Aww sweetie - please don’t take it to heart (although I fully understand why you feel hurt and I would too). When you do anything “alternative” people always seem to feel they have the right to comment (which they don’t btw). I would never say anything like that but some people don’t have the same ideas about politeness and understanding that we do.
I think that the reason people say studd like this is that they feel threatened by something that’s outside the box and they are trying to make themselves feel comfortable by lessening that threat. e.g I get laughed at for saving old packaging/envelopes but I know part of the reason for the laughter is that people feel a bit guilty not doing it themselves.
So basically big hugs and you keep living the way you want to live cause it’s no ones elses business.
Totally bizarre - this seems to be your week to attract the wierd comments doesn’t it? Lol I think our neighbours probably think the same about us, but surely people don’t say it out loud…?
Then again last week I had a friend we hardly see tell me that my husband is unhappy and I am forcing this lifestyle on him (meaning breastfeeding and cloth nappies, from the conversation we were having)...
People are strange. You are perfectly lovely and are not even doing anything that would have been odd to our greatgrandparents! The others are right, you’re just not fitting in the box and it makes people feel threatened. Just carry on being happy in your own way!
aren’t people strange ? i have always put those types of comments down to jealousy and ignore them , i get them from my mum and my brother in law !! you are perfect as you are don’t take it to heart, i know what i would rather be doing on the weekend! anyone fancy some tie dyeing and kumby yah round the campfire !! ( and other stereotypically comments about us perfect people ).
You’re not being over sensitive at all, what they said is totally out of order. It’s one thing saying things like to a close friend as a way of teasing but I certainly would never say that to a neighbour. I think if they did it again I’d be tempted to say I was glad I was different and not rude and judgemental like some people.
OOOOOOO I knew all you lovely ladies would make me feel a million times better. I’m not usually so sensitive, in fact I usually love being different, I guess I must have just been feeling a bit low today. I not going to say anything to either of them because they would prob laugh even more, however that said I don’t think their comments were meant with malice, I just don’t think they realised that it would bother me. I’m just shocked by their comments really but don’t intend changing anytime soon to fit in with them.
Thanks for all your kind words, they really have cheered me up, and my mum thinks you are all fab for cheering me up too (I won’t tell you what she said about their comments hehehe)
I hope you all have wonderful weekends whatever you are up to
I get upset and annoyed by the comments I get about the size of my family but I’m not always brave enough to be rude back and then later I kick myself for not saying something, so I can understand exactly how you feel. I’m glad you’re feeling better now - you’ll have to think up some replies ready for next time.
Poor you. Hope your bit happier now.
How bloody rude! Just goes to show how ignorant and scared of anyone different some people are! If i were you i would try and take it as a compliment . If normal is being like them then you can thank your lucky stars that your different!
Nobody should make you feel bad for being yourself. You are a individual and a wonderful creative articulate one at that!
Sending some (((((hugs )))))) and don’t forgot how wonderful it is to be YOU!
Some people think they can pass comment on anything! My mother-in-law came back from the hairdressers the other day, saying that the hairdresser had seen a mother with a baby in an “African carrier” and “lovely ethnic clothes”, and went on to say that “she” must have travelled a lot and have a house with lots of carvings and wall hangings. He mused on this subject for the whole of her haircut - she didn’t like to say I was her daughter-in-law (and was living with them)!
As it happens, he was very nice (if sorely mistaken!) but how odd to be talked about like that!
i’ve really noticed an emergence of rudeness towards one another in this country in the past 10 years. I blame sections of the media and TV programmes like The Weakest Link and Trinny & Susannah. People seem to think they can just say what they like nowadays wheras they used to be polite. There seems to be a very negative attitude these days to people who are perhaps a little less “mainstream”. Also I think there is an unhealthy hatred for fat people and smokers, yes, these are not healthy lifestyles, but now all and sundry think they have a right to criticise these people and to hell with their feelings.
Your neighbours sound more irritating than anything, I certainly wouldn’t let them drive you away from your home if you like living there. Having said that If they say anything else, just tell them you are very happy with your life thank you and do actually get out very oftern to better places than Tesco and the pub!!!
