I kind of knew this was coming… I don’t think Martin did though…
My wonderful lovely sweet kind mother in law has been given two years to live. We told the children already and Jenna said, “oh mummy - she might *not* die!“ I don’t know how my father in law is going to survive… And I can’t handle the thought that Rowan might never get to know her…
It’s not fair. Even as I say it I realise how empty and useless that is, refusing to accept it just because she’s a wonderful person. Good people die every day.
The shock would be horrible if she had just died. But how will we live with the waiting?
Sarah, am so sorry to hear this. You and your family are in my prayers.
The waiting will be hard but I guess the thing to do is spend as much time with her as possible (illness permiting) so the girls will have many wonderful memories. DD1 def remembers things from when she was 2 so hopefully Rowan will remember.
thats so sad but as you said pl can die suddenly without warning so having 2 yrs to make lovely memories and fulfil her dreams is something. it doesnthelp the pain much now though.
my grandmother had an op yesterday on a tumour, we are waiting for stage results so i understand how hard this is. she is like my mum and i cant bear the thought of william not knowing her liek the others..nig hugs to you
em x
That’s very sad, but you must make lots of lovely memories in the time you have left.
Would your MIL be interested in the Grandparents remember book. She could record lots of info about herself to pass onto the children when she’s gone? You could do something similar without the book, or there are other similar ones out there.
We are going through a similar thing at the moment with FIL. I agree with Em, you have this time to cherish together, and although of course that doesn’t help right now, it is something positive to focus on. I think that is what is helping DH cope with this time.
My thoughts and prayers are with you all
xxx
I’m so sorry, you will all be in my thoughts. One thing that might be nice if your MIL is feeling up to it is to record her either sound or on video, talking about her life, your DH’s early year, and all sorts of family things like that. YOu could even record her reading a favourite children’s book. I did this with my Nan years ago. She wasn’t ill at the time but I thought it would be great to know all different family information and what things were like when she was younger. She passed away a month after I got married almost 6 years ago and I think it will be lovely for my DD when she’s older to be able to hear her. She never met my DD which is one thing I always regret.
I know how hard this waiting is though, we’ve had this with my great grandmother and although it was only a few weeks with my Nan, it was still hard watching her decline and knowing that we could lose her at any time.
I’m so sorry to hear your sad news, sending love to you and your family. I have some lovely home video of my grandparents before they died and I’m really glad that I’ll be able to show it to my little one when he/she is born and old enough. Taking a bit of video at a family party/christmas etc is a lovely way of remembering good times.
love and prayers Kate xx
My grandma died when my brother was born and my mum was devastated that she never knew him and vice versa - we always had lots of photos and talking about her though, which made for special memories. Oh life just isn’t fair sometimes :( Have you come across any good books for explaining things to Jenna? We were given Badger’s Parting Gifts, which was lovely.
