We moved from Surrey to Sutherland in the Northern Highlands nearly four years ago I left my well paid job as a specialist nurse and started my own business selling organic baby clothes. We haven’t regretted it at all it couldn’t really be more different I love being part of a caring community which is what we have here.
Does anyone else have responsibilties that they cannot leave behind? DH’s parents are in their 80s and we are the only family left in the area, everyone else has aready moved. So we feel stuck where we are unless we took my parents in law with us, but they aren’t keen on moving to an isolated area away from medical care. So whilst it would be lovely to up and go, it just isn’t feasible at this time of life.
As I said, for us it’s just my daughters dad and so once she’s grown up then we are more free to leave - she only just turned 15.
My MIL is getting more and more dependant but currently lives 300 miles away. She has talked about moving near us at some point in the future but tbh that won’t really have any impact on us, she can move to be near us anywhere really.
It must be very difficult for you, are you really stuck? There is other family so maybe they wouldn’t want to move near you if you would like to move to an isolated area, but they could possibly move nearer to other family members? I’m sure they’d be upset to know this was stopping you fulfilling the dreams of your family.
Emigrated too when I was 19. Moved back to Britain a good ten years later. Lived in Edinburgh, Birmingham, Wales and Cheshire.
The way I am I think if I hadn’t seen these things I would be more restless than I am now. Occasionally now get the urge to take off
but there is a sense of creating a home which is so important for babes that makes me think I’m doing the right thing. She is fond of her
routine. Things and people being there for her. Knowing what’s happening when. I actually think adults need some of that too ,but not
too much. On the whole I don’t really like routine but am learning to work with it I hope instead of against it, and then often enough something
happens and someone is no longer there any more (as in getting older and passing on) and you feel sorry for all those times you bemoaned your
routine…a friend said to me last week it is easy to get caught up in everyday things and not see outside of that…e.g. that friend you have been
meaning to catch up with for a long time…and when you do you realise how much it meant to you.
DH is waiting to hear about a job which will make it easier for us to move, once we know the outcome of that we will then be able to make a decision one way or another
dh got the job(started 6 weeks ago) & we went to the coast for a nosy on Bank holiday Monday to a coastal town that we have never visited before & were pleasantly surprised. It would be a 26 mile round trip from there to his work instead of the 70 mile round trip each day. Schools are better than where we currently live & housing is cheaper. I would have to give up my job but that doesnt concern me. So, we are having our house valued tomorrow & viewing a few houses at the weekend. I am so excited but also keeping my feet on the ground. we don’t *have* to move but would be fulfilling a dream to live by the sea.
The house has been valued & we can afford to put the house up for sale & move. Just have to have a chat with dh now & choose which estate agent we are using.
I’ve upped and sticks quite a few times in my life and currently have extremelly itchy feet. Life is far too short and if you have a dream you must make it come true. In 1998 DH and I quit our jobs in the city, moved to the country and set up an organic food company. A couple of years later after selling the business we decided to sell everything we had, collected the France for a £! vouchers out of the newspaper, hitchhiked to Dover and got to France for a £1 then travelled around Europe by train for a few months. A few years after that when DS was 10 months, we hankered after the countryside again and went up to delightful Northumberland. We’re now in Leeds, but it’s time to go again.
kb77, I love the coast as well, so healthy and fresh and I think it’s gonna be on my list of prorities for when we move too!
Do it, but for goodness sake, move so that the kids can begin at the start of a new school year in September, as opposed to right in the middle of a term, with an already established class. Trust me on this one, as a Forces child, I know what I’m talking about!
we too at the mo feel stuck,dh hates his job,not the type of work just the usuless boss,and atmosphere,totally hopeless with money,and a new status hungry wife not helping,feels he wants to do something different but age(51)and kids seem to be holding him back,i wish i could make him see that while money is needed its not the be all,good luck in your new venture x
I would always try & coincide a move with the start of a new term but think I would be extremely lucky if we were to sell & move by September. Kids come first, as I have moved to a different area before (albeit 10 miles away instead of 50) & I am very good at getting kids settled & involved in a new community. Dh has just got cold feet so will have to give him time to think things through. This is what we would class as a “big” move.
Went back to have a look at the area & view a few houses & dh has fallen in love with it as have I & the kids. Been trawling the internet this weekend & found activities the kids currently do to transfer to. The school I would like the kids to go to have spaces & they have lunch & after school clubs available that would be of interest to my kids. Our house will be on rightmove from tomorrow & there is already someone who may come up from London this weekend to view. Fingers crossed.
Hornsea. Someone viewed our house yesterday & it is exactly what they are looking for, however, they have a house to sell themselves yet. Had another viewing today but not had the feedback as yet. Viewed 3 houses ourselves & another 2 to view unless some more come on the market.
Keep us updated!